One of the beautiful things that comes out of a very sad time, is when people hear stories about the people they've lost, from friends and family, that they had not heard before.
When John and I got married, we chose a Registry Office to hold the ceremony. Well, I say 'chose' but to be honest, in 1987 it was pretty much our only choice. We came from different faiths and neither of us was practicing, so using a place of worship felt disingenuous and would have stirred … Continue reading Vow Renewals are so much more than words
When someone dies, we often find it difficult to know what to say to the people they've left behind. Strangely, rather than overcoming this sense of embarrassment, we often avoid having a conversation at a time when, by just being there to listen, we could make such a huge difference.
It seems like a wonderful idea; a day to celebrate the most giving, caring and nurturing person in your life. The person who gave you life and raised you, perhaps with the help of another, or perhaps alone, to become the person you are. A day to acknowledge mothers all over the UK who deserve … Continue reading Mixed emotions on Mother’s Day
I'm setting myself a challenge for 2018 and I'd love you to join me. I'm going to find more to celebrate. I'm going to go out of my way to share things I believe will encourage other people to celebrate the positives in their lives too. And let me be clear, I'm not hiding my head in the sand or pretending that everything will get better for Planet Earth whilst I'm focussing on the positive. I am not going to be silent, I am not going to sit back and let the world continue on it's self-destructive path without speaking and peacefully protesting in any way I can. And I will do that in a positive way, celebrating my ability to express my opinions in a (relatively) free country.
I've been reminded this week of the first time we saw North Lodge in Myddfai, now our home for almost three years. It was a rainy day at the end of October 2014 and we knew we belonged here before we got through the gates. All our previous homes have "spoken" to me long before … Continue reading November Myddfai Musings
Talking about our inevitable death and our wishes after the event, is not usually included in recommended light conversation for date night. Even amongst those who work in roles where you'd expect talking about dying to be something they're trained in, and despite us all knowing that we will, at some point, die, many of … Continue reading Let’s talk about death, darling
You know your mother has always dreamed of giving you the Big White Wedding, the one her parents couldn't afford for her. You know your dad will be nervous but proud in equal measure and has been keeping his top-hat specifically for your big-day. You've got to accommodate every diet from gluten-free to vegan, via … Continue reading Planning a wedding to please everyone (and other ideas that will drive you to the edge)
This summer, I was ready. Ready to decide where my new life in Myddfai, Carmarthenshire, was going to head in the next chapter. When you've been lucky enough to live a life that has been full and varied (not just because of opportunities but also challenges) then finding the next thing you want to focus … Continue reading Why I became an Independent Celebrant
Massive Change; an event that has such a huge impact on your life, every moment of it, how you live it and how you define yourself, that you are a different person than the one you were previously. It can happen to anyone at any time and is not because of karma, or due to … Continue reading Massive change requires reinvention of Brand-You